Let’s face it, we all struggle with comparison, it’s a part of life and certainly a part of being a woman. But your boudoir session is no place for it. Boudoir is about self-love, self-expression, empowerment, and most importantly, it’s about YOU. This is YOUR session, stop comparing yourself to others.
It’s fine to use other gorgeous women as inspiration, even motivation, but you are beautiful as you are and there’s no point in trying to be anyone else. There’s nothing that breaks my heart more than a woman coming in for her boudoir session saying “I can’t wear _____, I don’t have a body like that girl” or “no I don’t want to do that pose because I hate _____ about my body!” Girl, just be YOU. I cannot say it enough. I want to hear what you LOVE about your body. Let’s showcase that!
I hear this all the time during pre-session consultations, and not just boudoir. Not knowing your angles is not something you should be worried about during your boudoir session, that’s my job. I want you to feel comfortable, empowered, and beautiful! Everyone has imperfections, that’s life. But it’s essential to realize that everyone has their own flaws and finding beauty within your unique imperfections is what’s important.
I know it’s tough to learn not to talk down to yourself, but for your boudoir session I really want you to focus on being kind to yourself. Thinking kind thoughts and really sinking deep into loving your body will absolutely show through in your photos. Confidence truly is the sexiest quality and if you’re feeling strong and confident, I promise you will GLOW. Body positivity is not easy, we know this. What I love to say is — if you wouldn’t say it to your best friend about her body, do not say it to yourself about yours!
Let’s keep this positivity rolling, get ready to show up and glow up for your next boudoir session! I can’t wait!